a good life…...
What defines “a good life”
It took me a long time of trying to find myself to finally realize that I already am the person I wanted to be. One thing that helped was my travels. I left the states when I was 15, and didn’t look back. High school in Israel, vagabonding through Southeast Asia and Europe, working in Japan for five years all the while trying to figure out what I want to be if and when I grow up. I wandered from place to place, making to do lists (this month, this year, 5 year plan….) Being around so many other cultures and ways of life confirmed there is no one right way to live and that it’s OK to be different. It’s not that easy, unless you live a remote island where there is no way to communicate. Buy some earplugs…because everyone has an opinion. All of a sudden family, friends, even strangers know what is best for you. Settle down, work from 9-5 because you will have benefits, meet a nice guy / girl, get married, buy a house…..pop out some kids….does this sound familiar….there is nothing wrong with this. I am sure it works for many people. I on the other hand have seen many of these end in a horrific battle of scorned egos. It is a lose / lose situation. That person that you loved so much and couldn’t wait to say “I do” is now public enemy # 1. What a waste of time and energy, and if there are kids involved what are you teaching them….nothing good. Not a very good role model.
When I moved back to the States at age 26, my 5 year plan read something like this:
buy a house
got to school
open a business
get in better shape
get married
sounds easy…and it was. Everything but the getting married part. Often I wondered is he the one, can i spend the rest of my life with this person, maybe I’m not the marrying type, am I too picky, what is it…..I have so much love to give…..I don’t want to be alone….but I also don’t want to be with just someone.
It is sad to say but society teaches us to live in fear….fear of failure, fear of not being accepting, fear of being alone, i can go on and on….instead of fear why don’t we embrace the unknown, follow our dreams, stop worrying of what might happen to you, go with the flow, listen to yourself.
I tried to come back and live the life that we all think is the “good life“. Convincing myself that once I finish school , once I start working, once , once , once things will be different.
No this isn’t how my life is going to be. I am putting a stop to it right now.
I realized I am not as happy as I can be…time for a new adventure.
The name of your company SAM I AM – yes u r. I should know I named u, raise and nurtured and loved u, always stood by your side. You, Samantha are a woman, mother and a gifted photographer .
BTW I remember most of the photos in this blog – I was there with u.
Not to compare u to others – but u have accomplished more in a very short time than most do in a lifetime.
U feel the need to travel, to show Ziah your other u – travel and return to her security.
ok so its more than 2 cents –
ema