PRESCRIPTIONS FOR BOREDOM

life : like a martini

you need to shake it not stir!!!!!!!!!!!

Boredom is curable, say doctors.

And you have plenty of options.

Give yourself antiboredom assignments.

For generalized boredom, Dr. Braiker prescribes the following remedy:

“Every day, do two things that are different from the usual–preferably, activities that you can discuss with others–like reading a news, travel or sports magazine; listening to new music or taking a class.”

Make a wish / bucket list…. (or 5 different ones)

this is the most important thing here…..

don’t get bored with your life.

change it up…you and only you can make a change.

Write down new things that you would like to try-

-see that new foreign movie, for example, or  take a bikram yoga class……

Think ahead.

For activities that require advance planning, start now, says Dr. Lloyd.

If you’ve jotted down “learn French,” for instance, pick up the phone, call the local community college and ask them to send you a course catalog so that you can sign up for next semester.

Don’t Plan at all…..

go with the flow.

this sometimes is the best planning you can do…….

Recruit your spouse.

If part of your problem is that you’re bored with your marriage, part of the solution is to make your antiboredom plan of action a joint effort, says Dr. Heitler.

Once a week for three months, do something new together:

Go horseback riding, try country line-dancing, visit a local art museum, volunteer at a homeless shelter, picnic with friends or rent mountain bikes, for example.

After three months of weekly adventures, single out the activities that you enjoy the most and continue to pursue them together.

Expand your circle of friends.

If you’re like most people, you need more novelty than one person can provide. That’s where friends come in. Others can provide you with new insights, ideas and inspiration, keeping you interested and interesting, says Dr. Lloyd.

Get out of the house.

Staying home–to work out of a home office or raise the kids–can be gratifying.

isolation can lead to boredom

If work keeps you cloistered at home, join a local professional association.

Or start a girl’s night out dinner + a movie

-invite neighbors, friends and business acquaintances to get together regularly (once a week or once a month) for meals or bbq.

new hobbies

i learned to sew this year……

try new things…..

i want to start yoga + meditation when we go on our travels.

break out of the child-rearing routine

take day trips with them.

go to the library or the park

do activities with friends that have kids (it’s more fun)

make a fort with your kids.

*******this is important********

the more time your spend with your child, and i do mean quality time. the more you will get back.

i have seen the change, just by giving ziah my undivided attention after school till bedtime.

maybe not everyday but at least 2-3 times a week.

workplace

try a new way of doing something

look for new taskes

take a class / learn a new software

volunteer

your time for a good cause…..

any cause…..there are so many.

you will feel really good about yourself.

i promise!!!!!!!!!!

Today is the first day of the rest of my life….I am seeing things so clearly now.

I am going to attach what I wrote today…..+ my about me page…..if you don’t feel like you’ve known me forever, then maybe I am not the right one for this adventure. I am a photographer…so I am going to attach not just what I look like, but more so what I see……and how I see it. I hope a pdf is good for you. I am on a MAC and like to use pages. If you still want a word document just let me know. Just to let you know…i ordered the workbook last night, but just your blog / video  and whenigrowupcoach.com in less than a day got me here. Thank you so much already.

-sam

who am i…

June 15, 2010

being a child….

i can feel it like it was yesterday, but reality is that it was many many years ago.

where has the time gone.i can remember so clearly the history of my youth. watching my daughter, i get flashbacks of me at her age. i love it.

it’s funny how remember most of the good and block out the bad.

when i was young….i was always waiting…

waiting to ride a 2 wheeler….waiting for my tooth to fall out….waititng to get my liscense…ok so i didn’t wait…i got it in the next state @ 16…..then fake id. i was good at not having to wait…always found the loop hole to expidite the process.

in reality why was i in such a rush…..where was i going…..at 15 i was given the oppurtunity to run away.

Being that I was super bored in high school….I needed more,so one that was 7000 miles away was perfect. Little did I know that this would be one of those life changing moments…that year changed my path. and I went happily never looking back. I truly believe certain people and moments alter your life.

This was a big one….bigger than my parents getting divorced, switching schools……

Not only did it teach me that americans are a spoiled nation who live way beyond their means, and truly don’t know what it means to live life. They are too busy trying to keep up with the Jones’s.

who knows who I would of bee , where I would be if I would of returned to the states to finish high school.

would i still be a single mom, almost 38 years old ? a photographer ? world traveler?

when i was freshman i took a commercial arts class, mind you pre computers… i received a D+….

my mom (WHO IS A VERY CREATIVE PERSON)  told me i didn’t have one creative bone in my body.

(oh wait is there a bone in your tonque). Now 20 years later i still don’t like to color, draw, or paint. I do however like to take photos, and design on the computer….and finally after so many years of wanted to learn how to sew + 10 years of collecting vintage fabrics…..i am doing it.

So yes i would say I am CREATIVE…..

I believe that living like a vagabond and traveling around the world really opened my true me.

It helped me become the person i needed to be.

Japan and everything in it is probably the biggest influence on how i see what i see.

The world is such a big place….why would i want to go to the moon when i haven’t seen all there is to see on earth.

I have friends that i grew up with in Jersey….that have never left the Tri- state area.

there is nothing to be afraid of….embrace it….it helped me understand myself better.

i feel out of tune, like a guitar.

THE GREAT DEBATE….on destiny.

is our destiny already written for us in life?

if so then by changing your path…do you alter your destiny?

lately i have been thinking alot about my life…

i am ziah’s mom. i am sam i am photography…..but what happened to me?

where did i go?

I got lost somewhere between potty training and my 3rd year of Sam I Am photography.

I feel trapped and alone.

Don’t get me wrong, I love both of those roles in my life and wouldn’t change them for the anything in the world.

I just want, no actually need to reconnect with me.

i am a fighter…it’s is part of who i am / my dna… like a 2nd skin.

The school of life taught me well.

Our life is what we make of it.

probably the last 10 years I haven’t been able to sit down and read. I don’t know why.

I can scan over a magazine….browse other peoples blogs…..

in reality my life is my movie. no need for reality tv.

until yesterday i couldn’t pinpoint  what it was….i need to go and explore and reconnect with the me.

the me i was when i was traveling, and i want my daughter to expierence this too.

true adventures start with  desire, an inclination to enter the unknown.

I have decided to take ziah and just go for a year. When i was traveling i met so many families who did this. I promised myself i would….and here i am at the beginning

Preparation Stage Begins….

I know this is the right thing and the right time. the talmud says you start to see things not as they are, but as you are. I haven’t felt something so right in a very long time. I am excited……

ME  /  MYSELF / + / I

quotes to live by

be thankful.

dream big.

and never give up.

- nick vujicic

discover your passion and go for it.

love what you’re doing.

be happy.

have a greater purpose.

and you will never look back.

-unknown

One of my favorites

“I like nonsense, it wakes up the brain cells. Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living,

It’s a way of looking at life through the wrong end of a telescope.

Which is what I do, And that enables you to laugh at life’s realities”

–Dr.Seuss

My grandmother was quite a woman. At 89 years old she had more life and spirit than most people I know. Water excercise in the am, cards with the girls, ushering in the broward, time for everyone, and still drove herself. She would come every other weekend to my mom, so she could spend time with Ziah. What a special bond they shared. To me losing your Mom is like losing an extension of yourself. They made us. I don’t think in a year you can anticipate your grief to end. You still feel, love and miss that person…and want them with you.

My grandma “Barbara Trudie” lived her life the way she wanted, of course she would die the same way. She would say….no fuss. She died the same day. I was alone with her when she took her last breathe. It was very hard to explain to a 3 year old where she had gone. That there will be no more new memories. She is really gone and we will not see her again, but she will always be in our heart. I wish for my mom to get to the point that she can remember the good times without the pain of her absence. When memories won’t make her sad. When she can think or speak of her and smile instead of ache.

She was an amazing woman, a spitfire, so stubborn…just like me.

If you are watching over us, or can hear me…

You are missed, and reminded of often.

i love you barbara trudie.